With Gray’s 4th birthday quickly approaching, I’ve been thinking a lot about how much my life has changed in the last four years. It’s been more challenging than I ever could have imagined, but I’ve also experienced more joy than I ever thought possible.
As a mom, I’m constantly worried about the things I’m teaching my son. I wonder if I’m teaching him enough, and if I’m teaching him the right things. It’s so funny how much time I spend thinking about this when Gray effortlessly teaches me so much on a daily basis. There’s a quote that says “While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.” I’m totally not a quote type of person, and I know it’s cheesy but it’s so true.
Children are so pure and have such a fresh perspective on life. There really is so much that can be learned from them if we slow down and listen to them. Here are four of the things my son has taught me in his four years of life:
- Find the Joy
In this Instagram post I talked about a recent experience where a Saturday definitely did NOT turn out as planned. I was so frustrated, exhausted and disappointed. It was supposed to be a special adventure for Gray and I, and even though things didn’t work out Gray will still as happy as ever. In fact, he’s always had fun no matter what we’re doing. I took a cue from him and we made the best out of the day. Seeing his positive attitude, and how excited he was about something so small really put things into perspective. Whether he’s splashing in puddles, playing in cardboard box or going to Disneyland, Gray always has a blast. Finding the joy in the smallest moments is one of my favorite things that Gray has taught me.
2. Slow Down
I am constantly on the go, and I honestly feel guilty when I sit down or am not actively doing something. Sometimes I get frustrated that it takes two hours to get out of the house because Gray always wants to play. Instead of always being stressed about time, I’m finally learning to slow down. It’s going to take the same amount of time regardless of whether or not I’m chasing Gray around the house like a crazy person, so I might as well enjoy our time together. When I look back years from now, I know the things that both Gray and I will remember are the times we’re laughing and playing together-not that time I was late to work. I need to stop being “too busy” to do the things that are actually important like taking a few minutes to play superheroes with Gray ,or running around outside having a squirt gun fight.
3. Be Adventurous
Before becoming a boy mom, I definitely would not have referred to myself as adventurous. I was actually terrified when I found out I was having a boy because I had no idea how to deal with little boys. These days it’s pretty standard to find me and Gray running outside playing cops and robbers, having nerf gun fights and playing the hot lava game. I’m not afraid to get dirty, and I live for adventures with my guys. It’s actually way more fun participating in all of the fun instead of sitting on the sidelines looking pretty (yes, that was a sports analogy-I think).
4. Love Unconditionally
When Gray loves someone, he loves them unconditionally. I fall short on a daily basis, and he never loves me any less. He loves so fiercely with his entire heart. The love of a child is something so pure and special. I don’t even know if it’s possible for an adult to love in such an unselfish way, but Gray has definitely inspired me to do my best to love unconditionally.
I hope this post inspires you to stop and listen the next time you’re with your little ones because they really do have so much to teach us.