This week I got to meet a couple of my Instagram mama friends in real life, and it inspired me to write a post on finding myself through the motherhood community.
As a woman and mother, something that I’m really passionate about is community.
Being a SAHM
I was a SAHM until my son was two, and I definitely lost myself during that time. I started an Instagram page for my son to just post photos of him in his outfits. Little did I know it was going to help me get out of my funk. The best thing that came out of that page was the huge community of moms I found who were just like me. We all let our role of being a mother consume us, so these pages were our creative outlets and our way to connect with other women. I met local moms, formed friendships and got our children together for play dates. When my son was younger, I didn’t really have any friends with kids so it was so nice finding women who could relate with all of the things I was dealing with at the time.
Going Back to Work
When my son was two, I went back to work. It was too difficult keeping up with his page, and it’s already hard getting a two-year-old to cooperate for photos as it is. Shortly after that, I decided to step outside of my comfort zone and focus on growing my own Instagram account (mind you, I had 300 followers at the time). I found a group of moms who were doing the same thing, and we bounced ideas off of each other, rooted for each other and celebrated each others small victories along the way.
Finding My Tribe
It has been so amazing watching all of those women grow-not just their following, but in who they are as women. I was so busy focusing on numbers, that I didn’t even realize that what we were building was a community. We watch each others children grow up right before our eyes, encourage each other, vent to each other, and comfort each other in times of loss. When something good happens to one of my mom friends, it truly makes me so happy. At times I’ll post about something I’m struggling with, and they make me feel like I’m not alone. We remind each other how beautiful and special each of us is, because we know how easy it is to forget. We message each other late at night about problems we’re dealing with, or for advice on why our kids aren’t sleeping.
Most of us have never met in person, and some of us even live in different countries. There is something so unique about being a mother, that it instantly bonded us no matter how different or far apart we might be. Finding a community of such empowering women has inspired and motivated me in ways I never expected. It’s the best feeling connecting with other moms and sharing experiences with breast feeding, potty training, sleep deprivation, balancing our marriages after kids or insane toddler tantrums.
I wrote a post recently about Why I’m so Over Mom Guilt, and I think a big part of the reason I’m over feeling guilty is that I now realize that I’m not alone. Having a supportive community of moms has uplifted me, and made me realize that I’m doing the best that I can and that’s enough.
Making Mom Friends
Let’s be real, it’s not easy making friends as an adult and it’s even harder as a mom. Since it would probably be creepy to go up to a mom at Target and ask her if she wants to be my friend, I’m so grateful for the friends I’ve made through Instagram. I recently had a mom’s night out with Tori (themanifestingmama), and Ania (kuklaania). We went out on a Monday, took an Uber, drank way more than we usually would, laughed, bonded over stories about our kids and took like 3,000 photos. Needless to say it was SO much fun, and exactly what I needed. I’m so grateful for the amazing moms I’ve met through social media who have turned into real friends.